Starting over isn't that simple

It's supposed to be difficult

The effects of Covid lockdowns are still lingering on for me.

My social game has taken a beating.

Before covid I was at sport events, birthdays and business networking days.

I say no to everything now, then again, invites aren’t as common anymore.  

I’ve disconnected from surface level. Also, I’m just plain awkward.

My life has undergone a reset. Re-evaluation of relationships and plans.

I think we’re all starting again in some way.

Being alone is dangerous

We’re feeling more and more anxious & lonely. We were left to fend for ourselves throughout covid.

Our families suffered, no one checked in. Each of us were just trying to survive. Our perspectives shifted.

It would be abnormal and stupid to simply return to the same thinking and old way of living.

There were clear lessons and the world will never be the same for some of us. The rest of us are grabbing at old things, desperately trying to get things back to the way it was.

But experiences should bring enlightenment.

Casting everyone out and being an island will cause harm. We need each other.

My personal philosophy was; it’s just me and God. I can’t trust anyone else.

But as an old soul once said; Trust God and love people. Not the other way around.

If I just look out for me, I will never be satisfied. I won’t ever be happy.

We need to be there for others.

Getting angry is ok

Growing up I had pretty good athletic ability. Taller than most, quick, and I inherited a gene from my dad; the I never give up gene (Even if you’re limping and bleeding).

We didn’t have rugby, water polo, tennis, cricket etc. in my environment.

Exposure was lost on me.

I firmly believe that one of the biggest travesty’s of South Africa is the lack of opportunities for most kids.

There is such a disparity between what one child has in their grasp vs one with the talent and desire to be truly exceptional.

I’ve been angry about this for years. Especially when the privileged take for granted what they have.

I get angry, but I’ve learnt not to respond in anger. It’s better used to motivate me.

Building successful businesses and giving kids opportunities isn’t a “nice-to-do” thing for me. It’s very personal. To a point where you’re willing to endure immense pain.

A book I know says; “Be angry, but don’t sin”.

The dangerous professional with nothing to lose

Starting over is important

We’ve all been through trauma in 2020. But we’re not getting the counselling we now need.

Marriages have changed, family dynamics have changed, lifestyles have changed, and the big one; dreams and desires have changed.

Something is missing, you can’t put your finger on it.

Thing is - You’ve changed. You’re mind has shifted. But you’re expected to live the exact same life as before.

People need you. Talk about it. It’s ok to start over.

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